TWIR9: Learning life’s lessons from not making the team

COMMENTARY — Recently one of my daughters was cut from a basketball team. What team doesn’t matter, nor does it matter what coach did the cutting.

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that life is full of cuts. I was cut from the basketball team in high school. I was “uninvited” from practicing with my college football team. I’ve applied for many jobs and sometimes didn’t even get an interview. Heck, if you decide not to finish reading this article, you’re basically cutting me from your day.

All I ask for, all we ask for, is a fair shake. And if we give it our best and don’t make the cut, although it may hurt, we learn from it and move on.

I know my daughter, although she cried and was hurting for awhile, is now determined to make those who decided to cut her sorry. She is going to practice harder, work more and maybe make the team next year.

That’s how it should be. Unfortunately, there’s always an ugly side to not making the team. Players and parents often blame politics, personal bias or other petty reasons for missing out. Letters are written, phone calls are made and (sometimes) social media is used to complain, beg and accuse.

Those types of parents are sending the message to their kids that if you don’t make the team, make a fuss instead. Don’t work harder. Don’t set goals. Instead, whine and you may get your way.

Once again, we need to get to the bottom line. Every coach at the school-age level has just one goal in mind: TO WIN. If a kid can help the coach achieve that goal, he/she will make the team. If not, it’s time for a cut.

Like refusing to keep the score in a little-league game, we do our children a disservice by trying to take away their adversity. We learn from our trials and disappointments. And our character is revealed by how we deal with these same trials.

A recent Facebook post by a parent of an athlete at Desert Hills who was recently cut from the baseball team reveals great character. I’ll leave the names out, but I hope that we can all learn and grow from this brave parent, who taught his child a crucial lesson about life:

Soaking the dirt out of his uniform.
Soaking the dirt out of his uniform.

“… had some clothes to wash this morn and he asked when were we doing a white wash. I told him to put his whites in a pile and we would do them tonight. He said he had his white baseball pants to wash and they where way dirty. I told him I would take care of them because I knew they needed to be soaked before we put them into the wash. As I filled up the sink and began to rinse them off, I realized this was the last time we would ever be washing his baseball pants again. It was over. I got to admit I broke down for a second and not because I was mad he didn’t make the team. It was because I knew how much he wanted to be on the DHills team and how much effort he put into it and in the end it didn’t work out. I’m not bitter and I truly believe he was dealt with fairly but it doesn’t take away the heartache I feel for him. He is handling it very well because he has the right perspective on life and is a great young man.

I want to thank DHills baseball for their association with … and also thank those young men on the team for their friendship with him.
Also for you young men on the team: Don’t take for granted what you have and what you are a part of. Sometimes it’s hard to realize how much a team means to u until you’re no longer a part of it.
So as his baseball pants finish soaking I know I’m going to have to rinse the last little bit of the Thunder baseball field down the drain for the final time! Don’t be afraid to wear as much of the baseball field as u can and you will be successful!

Hoping for a good season out of DHills Baseball!
Sincerely …”

I believe most parents are like this young man’s dad. We want to “fix” everything, but in doing so, we would be harming our children. Instead, we must let our kids grow and learn from failing.

Basketball

I thoroughly enjoyed the state tournament up North this past weekend. I was very proud and impressed with the showing that the Region 9 boys put together. There is no doubt that Pine View, Dixie and Desert Hills were the three best teams there, and just like in region play, Pine View ultimately emerged as champ.

Saturday’s March Mayhem All-Star basketball game is the last hoops of the year for the preps. I will miss basketball, a sport very relatable to so many of us.

Meanwhile, baseball, softball, soccer and track take over our sports world as the Spring seasons begin. Here’s a look at this week’s schedule:

Thursday, March 5, 2015

BASEBALL 
Enterprise at Desert Hills, 4 p.m.

BOYS SOCCER 
Alta at Pine View, 3 p.m.
Beaver at Snow Canyon, 3 p.m.
Maple Mountain at Dixie, 3 p.m.
Tooele at Desert Hills, 3 p.m.
Parowan vs. Canyon View, 7 p.m. (at Snow Canyon)
Carbon at Hurricane, 7:30 p.m.

Friday, March 6, 2015

BASEBALL
BUCK’S ACE KJ HARRISON CLASSIC (all games at Snow Canyon High School)
Canyon View vs. Maple Mountain, 9 a.m.
Cimarron Memorial, Nev. vs. Maple Mountain, 11:30 a.m.
Canyon View vs. Cimarron Memorial, Nev., 2 p.m.
Lehi vs. Bountiful, 4:30 p.m.
Lehi vs. Snow Canyon, 7 p.m.
Bountiful vs. Snow Canyon, 9:30 p.m.

DESERT HILLS INVITATIONAL (all games at Desert Hills High School)
Hillcrest vs. Timpanogos, 9 a.m.
Timpanogos vs. Desert Hills, 11 a.m.
Desert Hills vs. Hillcrest, 1 p.m.
Copper Hills vs. Salem Hills, 3 p.m.
Salem Hills vs. Murray, 5 p.m.
Murray vs. Copper Hills, 7 p.m.

PIZZA HUT CLASSIC (all games at Dixie High School)
Bear River vs. Carbon, 10 a.m.
Tooele vs. Cedar, 10 a.m.
Box Elder vs. Stansbury, 1 p.m.
Payson vs. Dixie, 1 p.m.
Bear River vs. Cedar, 4 p.m.
Tooele vs. Carbon, 4 p.m.
Box Elder vs. Payson, 7 p.m.
Stansbury vs. Dixie, 7 p.m.

TIGER-PANTHER CLASSIC
Grantsville vs. Granger, 8 a.m. (at Hurricane High School)
North Sevier vs. Park City, 8 a.m. (at Pine View High School)
North Sevier vs. Pine View, 8 a.m. (at Pine View High School)
Delta vs. Sky View, 10:30 a.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Hunter vs. Beaver, 1 p.m. (at Pine View High School)
Sky View vs. Grantsville, 1 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Union vs. Granger, 3 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Hunter vs. Pine View, 3:30 p.m. (at Pine View High School)
Hurricane vs. Delta, 6 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Park City vs. Pine View, 6 p.m. (at Pine View High School)

BOYS SOCCER 
Park City at Desert Hills, 8:30 a.m.
Summit Academy vs. Canyon View, 8:30 a.m. (at Dixie)
Alta at Dixie, 4:30 p.m.
Maple Mountain at Pine View, 4:30 p.m.
Snow Canyon at Uintah, 6:30 p.m.
Uintah at Hurricane, 8:30 p.m.

SOFTBALL 
Manti at Cedar, 3:30 p.m.
Enterprise at Dixie, 4 p.m.

Saturday, March 7, 2015

BASEBALL 
Richfield at Pine View, 8 a.m.

BUCK’S ACE KJ HARRISON CLASSIC (all games at Snow Canyon High School)
Bountiful vs. TBD, 9 a.m.
Canyon View vs. TBD, 9 a.m.
Lehi vs. TBD, 9 a.m.
Maple Mountain vs. TBD, 9 a.m.
Snow Canyon vs. TBD, 9 a.m.
Bountiful vs. TBD, 3 p.m.
Canyon View vs. TBD, 3 p.m.
Lehi vs. TBD, 3 p.m.
Maple Mountain vs. TBD, 3 p.m.
Snow Canyon vs. TBD, 3 p.m.

DESERT HILLS INVITATIONAL (all games at Desert Hills High School)
Copper Hills vs. TBD, tbd
Desert Hills vs. TBD, tbd
Hillcrest vs. TBD, tbd
Murray vs. TBD, tbd
Salem Hills vs. TBD, tbd
TBD vs. Salem Hills, tbd
Timpanogos vs. TBD, tbd

PIZZA HUT CLASSIC (all games at Dixie High School)
Bear River vs. Tooele, 10 a.m.
Cedar vs. Carbon, 10 a.m.
Box Elder vs. Dixie, 1 p.m.
Stansbury vs. Payson, 1 p.m.
Bear River vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Box Elder vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Carbon vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Cedar vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Dixie vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Payson vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Stansbury vs. TBD, 4 p.m.
Tooele vs. TBD, 4 p.m.

TIGER-PANTHER CLASSIC
Hurricane vs. Grantsville, 8 a.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Delta vs. Union, 10:30 a.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Hunter vs. Park City, 10:30 a.m. (at Pine View High School)
Hurricane vs. TBD, noon (at Hurricane High School)
TBD vs. Pine View, noon (at Pine View High School)
TBD vs. Park City, noon (at Pine View High School)
Beaver vs. North Sevier, 1 p.m. (at Pine View High School)
Granger vs. TBD, 1 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Sky View vs. Granger, 1 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)
TBD vs. North Sevier, 4 p.m. (at Pine View High School)
TBD vs. Hunter, 4 p.m. (at Pine View High School)
Delta vs. TBD, 6 p.m. (at Hurricane High School)

BOYS SOCCER 
Cedar vs. Uintah, 8:30 a.m. (at Hurricane High School)
Summit Academy at Desert Hills, 8:30 a.m.
Carbon at Snow Canyon, 2:30 p.m.
Delta vs. Canyon View, 4:30 p.m. (at Deseret Hills)
North Sanpete at Pine View, 4:30 p.m.
North Sanpete at Dixie, 8:30 p.m.

SOFTBALL 
Canyon View vs. Liberty, Nev., noon (at Bishop Gorman High School)

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

BASEBALL 
Canyon View at Richfield, 3 p.m.

BOYS SOCCER Region 9
Canyon View at Pine View, 7 p.m.
Cedar at Snow Canyon, 7 p.m.
Dixie at Desert Hills, 7 p.m.

SOFTBALL 
Lincoln County, Nev. at Dixie, 4 p.m.

“This Week in Region 9″ is a weekly column written by Andy Griffin exploring the happenings in Region 9 at all sports venues. The opinions expressed are not necessarily those of St. George News.

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2 Comments

  • Usedyourname March 4, 2015 at 4:53 pm

    nice article

  • Mean Momma March 7, 2015 at 7:33 am

    Michael Jordon is a prime example of not giving up and proving people wrong! Work hard young lady and you can be like Mike!

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