He Said She Said: Should I Ask Her Out?

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I am friends with this girl that I really like. She’s really friendly and she always responds to my questions on Facebook, or to comments I post on her wall. But I don’t know if that means she likes me. I asked her out once and she wasn’t able to go. Now I’m wondering if I should ask her out again. How do I know if she likes me back or if I’m just making a fool of myself?

He Said:

Well the fact that she is responsive tells you that you need not worry about looking like a fool.  If she has no interest in you at all she would not be friendly and responsive.

She either has interest or she just thinks of you as a friend, and either way you can’t go wrong by taking a shot and asking her out again.  So go for it, as you definitely don’t want to live with the regret of not trying, and she may very well be waiting for you to take some initiative.

She Said:

Most girls are friendly because they have the ability to “just be friends.” But that doesn’t mean she’s into you.

Is she just responding to comments you are leaving on her Facebook wall, or is she actively posting on your wall, as well? That will be a good indicator of whether or not she likes you.

You won’t make a fool of yourself unless you are doing what I call “peeing on her wall.” There are some guys who want to make it so clear that they like a girl, they will comment on every status and “like” every photo she posts. Guys who do that are trying to mark their territory and it’s just silly.

On whether you should ask her out again, it depends on her answer. Most girls don’t want to look bad and they don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. So they say things like: “I’m really busy with work/school/kids right now” or “I just met someone I really like.”

If she said anything like that, don’t ask her out again. If she said: “I have plans that day but maybe next week,” then it is safe to ask her again.

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